am 31 years old male still vergine,but my mind disturb very much n i want to stop masturbation n have my mind in control.please help me.tel me what to do!.
Hi, I am a 14 yeare old guy. I've been masturbating on and off since i was 12. There is a lot of evidence for why you should or shouldn't masturbate. I am havin trouble deciding if I should stop. Like, it feels great, but on the other hand I feel guilty about it. I'd like to stop, I've actually tried before, but it is really hard and I usually only go for 1-2 weeks. I am going to try some of the suggestions on stopping that just might work. Good luck on stopping and taking control of your mind.
Thinking ... feeling ... willing ... doing. That's how it goes.
It is very difficult to retain the semen when a man thinks about sex often. First the thought comes, and if one dwells upon it for even a moment, then the mind creates an expectation of mental enjoyment in relation to the object of one's fantasies. Desire naturally arises from this, which often cannot be fulfilled due to social and other considerations. During this process, which develops from the mental to the physical, the seminal components are being drawn from the body and stored in the testes. As the semen accumulates, it becomes increasingly difficult to retain, and will eventually cause severe discomfort (congestive prostatitis http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a2_195b.html). The mind will conjure fantasies just to release the semen, if need be.
If one wants to control one's sexual activities, it is most helpful to control one's thoughts. If a man is heterosexual, he should not think of women sexually. One must be vigilant over the mind, and when undesirable thoughts arise, they should not be entertained. Otherwise retaining the semen will be virtually impossible. The body acts in reaction to the mind. If the mind is controlled, the control of the body will follow. This may seem to take incredible willpower in the beginning, but day-by-day with practice it becomes easier. Quitting unnecessary seminal discharge is similar to quitting drugs. It may seem impossible at first, but it can be achieved with determination, and eventually it becomes so natural and good that one will wonder how he tolerated such a wretched life before.
Perhapes, a lot of medical conditions, eg.. anixety, homosexuality, parkinson's disease etc... can be explained by too much sex.
To stop u need to find something else to think about. It's stress that's the root cause of masturbation.
Also try wearing p-jays at bedtime, if it's too hot at least cover the penis.
Being a wanker is just ok I myself is an absolute one.:-)
It's a nature of man that cannot be resisted. But if it does really bugs you that much and affects your personal life then it needs to be stopped. It cannot be stopped but minimize rather.
My simple advice is to focus to something new that also feels you good as an equalizer to masturbation. I know this is hard to do it's just like someone who wants to stop smoking, it takes you one stick at a time.
Obviously not for destroying it by masterbation but
I have heard for somewhere that eating onions or chicken(if you are a non-vegitarian) will increase semen. Does anyone know about any herbs or some vegitatian items in day-to-day life that I can eat to increase the semen? I am a vegitarian.
Thaks for suggestions
A virgin at 31? You should be masturbating, just reduce it a bit.
Then go to a brothel and get laid for heaven's sake!
You'll soon feel a whole lot better.
As a virgin in the same situation I know that stopping is very difficult to do. However, it can be achieved by several methods. One: don't do activities connected with it, because chances are those are damaging in other ways too. Such activities include pornography and sexual dreams. If you have good mental control it is easier, but if not, actively avoiding it can work. I agree that keeping yourself busy with work is the best solution - my addiction to it came about because I had too much time on my hands at lunch and similar times. And if you can develop any friendships of yours into relationships, and from there to marriage, that might cure you. Avoid reading books or watching movies or television that are R-rated in terms of sexual content. Self-censor. This can seriously help you to stop. Telling someone you know and trust, like a parent or a religious leader can help you to stop. And if everything fails, go to a sexual sin-cleansing service for counseling.
You can give it up naturally and easily if you experience a higher taste. Personally I've found a combination of two things have helped me to give it up. The first one is changing my lifestyle to be actively involved in my local church a lot of the time (I'm a Hare Krishna, so it's called a temple) and having a personal spiritual practice (in my case praying, singing, studying and teaching scripture). In addition to taking up time, these things give satisfaction to the heart, and reduce lust. The second one is to get married, work a job to maintain to my family, and have children with my wife.
The combination of these two things did it for me. I would recommend getting involved with a temple or church, working hard there, finding a nice, compatible wife and getting married and then working hard to support your wife and kids. Once you do those things you won't have any energy or time to masturbate. :-) And you probably won't feel the need.
You get a little pleasure for the body, but it creates impressions in the mind which hurt your long term happiness. Plus that bodily pleasure is temporary and is not good for a healthy body or mind. Why throw out the most valuable part of your physiology for some temporary pleasure.
It's tough to stop because our body has become used to it. It is just a habit that has to be broken. If you go for a few days without it you will wonder how you could do it. It is kind of like an itch that you want to scratch, it won't really do anything for you, it will just bother you and it feeds on itself like a fire.
You should just remember with your intelligence that there is a reason for not doing it. So if you read the things on this site you will be intellectually convinced that it is not helping yourself, then it is more possible.
Plus you can stop doing this which increase your lusty feelings, that is a big category. Not eating meat helps. Meat is just an unnecessary negative influence on your mind and body.
Hope someone can handle that much good advice at one time.
STOP!!! Stop doing whatever you do to get masturbated. Cut everything that looks good to do it. For example: movies, reading, music, etc.. And then pray everytime you remember. It takes to make a decision first and then say NO all the time. Once you accept to do it it'll become an addiction. I will be praying a lot for you, but remember: you have to make a decision and FOLLOW IT. Let God guide you. With God there's nothing imposible.
Putting up the opinion of a lot of religiously bent scientists does not consitute fact.
Fact would be a test case involving the study of several... and I'm talking hundreds to thousands of cases where different controls were established with which to draw a solid conclusion.
All I see is a collection of religious opinions spread out over a couple thousand years.
Saying the same thing over and over again doesn't make it fact... it is more a tradition of lore or mythology.
If you want to pray instead of masturbate, more power to you. If you want to beat your dog or wife rather then masturbate... I'd say stop, but trying to tell myself and others that there is a scientific discourse on the harmful effects of masturbation and then list a bunch of quotes, not research, is a diservice to those that take it as fact.
Spiritualism... fine, but not science.
Metaphysics... fine, but not science.
The greeks also believe that having sex with a man was far healthier than having sex with their wife and would only do so for procreation.
I won't even get into the documented sexual habits of the civilization founding spartans.
Many of the people quoted here had their own foundations in faith for thier reasonings to lead to the conclusions.
All the people who seem to be agreeing with this psuedo-science also seem to be coming from a faith based initative.
One could also find information and opinion documentation to draw the exact opposite conclusion that masturbation and the release of sexual tension can lead to a longer and happier life. As well as to curb the abnormal sexual deviations that often come from people trying to repress their sexuality.
If I cared enough or had the time I would create my own psuedo science website. But I think I'll just masturbate or fornicate and go to bed happy and at peace. No God... No faith... No religion... Just release.
The only way to find "proof" is to experiment on yourself. Start masterbating every day for a few months and then SEE what happens to your body, your mind, your emotional states, your relationships, your finances and your luck in general. Then do the reverse. Give up all erotic experiences for a few months and then SEE what happens to those things just mentioned.
This investigation should be done scientifically. All experiences should be dated and documented for objective analysis.
masturbations DOES RUIN LIVES theres no need for a massive test its so fucking obvious because when u do it u loose energy and desire. and DESIRE is what makes u get a GIRL moron fuck what u wrote and ur opinion.
Masturbating...
Hi, I am a 14 yeare old guy. I've been masturbating on and off since i was 12. There is a lot of evidence for why you should or shouldn't masturbate. I am havin trouble deciding if I should stop. Like, it feels great, but on the other hand I feel guilty about it. I'd like to stop, I've actually tried before, but it is really hard and I usually only go for 1-2 weeks. I am going to try some of the suggestions on stopping that just might work. Good luck on stopping and taking control of your mind.
thinking, feeling, willing, doing
Thinking ... feeling ... willing ... doing. That's how it goes.
It is very difficult to retain the semen when a man thinks about sex often. First the thought comes, and if one dwells upon it for even a moment, then the mind creates an expectation of mental enjoyment in relation to the object of one's fantasies. Desire naturally arises from this, which often cannot be fulfilled due to social and other considerations. During this process, which develops from the mental to the physical, the seminal components are being drawn from the body and stored in the testes. As the semen accumulates, it becomes increasingly difficult to retain, and will eventually cause severe discomfort (congestive prostatitis http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a2_195b.html). The mind will conjure fantasies just to release the semen, if need be.
If one wants to control one's sexual activities, it is most helpful to control one's thoughts. If a man is heterosexual, he should not think of women sexually. One must be vigilant over the mind, and when undesirable thoughts arise, they should not be entertained. Otherwise retaining the semen will be virtually impossible. The body acts in reaction to the mind. If the mind is controlled, the control of the body will follow. This may seem to take incredible willpower in the beginning, but day-by-day with practice it becomes easier. Quitting unnecessary seminal discharge is similar to quitting drugs. It may seem impossible at first, but it can be achieved with determination, and eventually it becomes so natural and good that one will wonder how he tolerated such a wretched life before.
Perhapes, a lot of medical
Perhapes, a lot of medical conditions, eg.. anixety, homosexuality, parkinson's disease etc... can be explained by too much sex.
To stop u need to find something else to think about. It's stress that's the root cause of masturbation.
Also try wearing p-jays at bedtime, if it's too hot at least cover the penis.
It's ok
Being a wanker is just ok I myself is an absolute one.:-)
It's a nature of man that cannot be resisted. But if it does really bugs you that much and affects your personal life then it needs to be stopped. It cannot be stopped but minimize rather.
My simple advice is to focus to something new that also feels you good as an equalizer to masturbation. I know this is hard to do it's just like someone who wants to stop smoking, it takes you one stick at a time.
-Jan
Self-Improvement Advice
what to eat to increase your semen or veerya?
Obviously not for destroying it by masterbation but
I have heard for somewhere that eating onions or chicken(if you are a non-vegitarian) will increase semen. Does anyone know about any herbs or some vegitatian items in day-to-day life that I can eat to increase the semen? I am a vegitarian.
Thaks for suggestions
Get laid!
A virgin at 31? You should be masturbating, just reduce it a bit.
Then go to a brothel and get laid for heaven's sake!
You'll soon feel a whole lot better.
It's very hard, but possible.
As a virgin in the same situation I know that stopping is very difficult to do. However, it can be achieved by several methods. One: don't do activities connected with it, because chances are those are damaging in other ways too. Such activities include pornography and sexual dreams. If you have good mental control it is easier, but if not, actively avoiding it can work. I agree that keeping yourself busy with work is the best solution - my addiction to it came about because I had too much time on my hands at lunch and similar times. And if you can develop any friendships of yours into relationships, and from there to marriage, that might cure you. Avoid reading books or watching movies or television that are R-rated in terms of sexual content. Self-censor. This can seriously help you to stop. Telling someone you know and trust, like a parent or a religious leader can help you to stop. And if everything fails, go to a sexual sin-cleansing service for counseling.
Find something better
You can give it up naturally and easily if you experience a higher taste. Personally I've found a combination of two things have helped me to give it up. The first one is changing my lifestyle to be actively involved in my local church a lot of the time (I'm a Hare Krishna, so it's called a temple) and having a personal spiritual practice (in my case praying, singing, studying and teaching scripture). In addition to taking up time, these things give satisfaction to the heart, and reduce lust. The second one is to get married, work a job to maintain to my family, and have children with my wife.
The combination of these two things did it for me. I would recommend getting involved with a temple or church, working hard there, finding a nice, compatible wife and getting married and then working hard to support your wife and kids. Once you do those things you won't have any energy or time to masturbate. :-) And you probably won't feel the need.
its good
dont worry... masturbation is good...
especially if ur a virgin..
its the nicest thing u will experience
little pleasure, lot of problems
You get a little pleasure for the body, but it creates impressions in the mind which hurt your long term happiness. Plus that bodily pleasure is temporary and is not good for a healthy body or mind. Why throw out the most valuable part of your physiology for some temporary pleasure.
it's tough
It's tough to stop because our body has become used to it. It is just a habit that has to be broken. If you go for a few days without it you will wonder how you could do it. It is kind of like an itch that you want to scratch, it won't really do anything for you, it will just bother you and it feeds on itself like a fire.
You should just remember with your intelligence that there is a reason for not doing it. So if you read the things on this site you will be intellectually convinced that it is not helping yourself, then it is more possible.
Plus you can stop doing this which increase your lusty feelings, that is a big category. Not eating meat helps. Meat is just an unnecessary negative influence on your mind and body.
Hope someone can handle that much good advice at one time.
you can do it
STOP!!! Stop doing whatever you do to get masturbated. Cut everything that looks good to do it. For example: movies, reading, music, etc.. And then pray everytime you remember. It takes to make a decision first and then say NO all the time. Once you accept to do it it'll become an addiction. I will be praying a lot for you, but remember: you have to make a decision and FOLLOW IT. Let God guide you. With God there's nothing imposible.
Your friend,
alkfj
Cleverly hidden religious propoganda
Putting up the opinion of a lot of religiously bent scientists does not consitute fact.
Fact would be a test case involving the study of several... and I'm talking hundreds to thousands of cases where different controls were established with which to draw a solid conclusion.
All I see is a collection of religious opinions spread out over a couple thousand years.
Saying the same thing over and over again doesn't make it fact... it is more a tradition of lore or mythology.
If you want to pray instead of masturbate, more power to you. If you want to beat your dog or wife rather then masturbate... I'd say stop, but trying to tell myself and others that there is a scientific discourse on the harmful effects of masturbation and then list a bunch of quotes, not research, is a diservice to those that take it as fact.
Spiritualism... fine, but not science.
Metaphysics... fine, but not science.
The greeks also believe that having sex with a man was far healthier than having sex with their wife and would only do so for procreation.
I won't even get into the documented sexual habits of the civilization founding spartans.
Many of the people quoted here had their own foundations in faith for thier reasonings to lead to the conclusions.
All the people who seem to be agreeing with this psuedo-science also seem to be coming from a faith based initative.
One could also find information and opinion documentation to draw the exact opposite conclusion that masturbation and the release of sexual tension can lead to a longer and happier life. As well as to curb the abnormal sexual deviations that often come from people trying to repress their sexuality.
If I cared enough or had the time I would create my own psuedo science website. But I think I'll just masturbate or fornicate and go to bed happy and at peace. No God... No faith... No religion... Just release.
Proof - J. Anthony
The only way to find "proof" is to experiment on yourself. Start masterbating every day for a few months and then SEE what happens to your body, your mind, your emotional states, your relationships, your finances and your luck in general. Then do the reverse. Give up all erotic experiences for a few months and then SEE what happens to those things just mentioned.
This investigation should be done scientifically. All experiences should be dated and documented for objective analysis.
Fuck u stupid asshole
masturbations DOES RUIN LIVES theres no need for a massive test its so fucking obvious because when u do it u loose energy and desire. and DESIRE is what makes u get a GIRL moron fuck what u wrote and ur opinion.
HOMOSEXUAL
HOW CAN ONE WHO IS AN MANLOVER HELPS HIMSELF OUT OF BED WITH ANOTHER MAN. HE DON'T LIKE THE LIFESTYLE AND DESIRE TO CHANGE BUT FINDDS IT HARD.